Sunday, 8 July 2012

EMPATHY ANGELS



The Empathy Campaign is about MORE than the translation of my book on Empathy. Yes, I am a dreamer and a visionary.  But with that, comes responsibility and the commitment to work at achieving these dreams.  Indeed, I am committed.  It takes a lot from an ordinary South African citizen with only a dream, to decide to follow that dream, in spite of a lack of support.  I completed my book on empathy had it published (see image below), secured a regular empathy slot on radio.  Here I am, still committed to continue with this great cause, a cause that South Africa needs; a cause that needs South Africa's commitment.  

I dream about the wonderful and positive contribution that I and every other South African who believes in nation building could contribute to South Africa. Apart from the other voluntary work that I am involved with, the foundation for my passion to contribute to nation building, is based on The Empathy Campaign http://www.facebook.com/empathycampaignsa

This passion came from understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of unkind and inconsiderate behaviour, of severe discrimination that were justified because of who I am, where I come from, what I look like. My powerful journey of personal growth made it possible to forgive.
The pain from my past, brought a wealth of good. It made me say: “Because I know what that feels like, I can never do it to another human being.” Let's re-consider our unkind actions.

Let's Ask: “How would I feel if I was on the receiving end?
Let's Act: And perhaps we'll be inspired to decide against such actions.

I was further inspired by ordinary South Africans and some, not so ordinary South Africans. I call them my EMPATHY ANGELS.


My dream with EMPATHY ANGELS, is to inspire South Africans to identify people in their communities, people who are making an empathic difference in the lives of others. With the necessary support from Government and Corporate South Africa, we'll be able to pay tribute to such individuals with what I call, an Empathy Angels Awards. Until it happens, I'll continue doing what I am absolutely passionate about, sharing the empathy message with South Africa on various platforms.

I am always looking around and getting inspired by the work that other people do. Stories about their kind and empathic gestures that they display, gestures that deserve to have that snowball effect. Today, I would like to identify some of these individuals who, with their actions, inspired me to choose between getting revenge and doing what is good for South Africa. Yes there are many individuals out there, making an empathic difference in their communities and South Africa. Today I'll focus on a few who stand out for me. These individuals include:


Mr. Nelson Mandela

His wonderful example set for people of all races in South Africa and around the world. An example that was instrumental in my journey towards healing and letting go of emotional pain and bitterness. I was able to forgive, because I had a great example to look at.


Angelique Fuhr
She is the 83 year old widow who discovered James Bhemgee, winner of "South Africa's got talent", season 2. He worked as a street sweeper and was always singing while doing his job. She realised his talent and sponsored singing lesson, among other things. As they say, the rest is history. Her investment has paid off.
She deserves all the praise for doing this, as a white South African nurturing the wonderful talent of a coloured man, a street sweeper at that, living on the Cape flats. May her soul rest in peace.
Apparently she still has a daughter, living in Cape Town. I'll be in touch with her as soon as the Empathy Angels Awards become a reality.


Prof. Jonathan Jansen, Rector at Free State University
Well, it takes courage to do the thing that eventually will contribute to the greater good of humanity- especially when there is so much criticism. It could not have been easy to be in that position. One thing I believe that we cannot deny, is that his decisions around the painful incident that took place at Reitz, was done with good intention, to eventually contribute to the greater good of South Africa. Love him or hate him; how would you have handled the situation?
Prof. Jansen also wrote the Foreword of my book on EMPATHY: In Mekaar Se Skoene.


Mr. Willem Maree
A homeless and jobless white South African saving a little black girl from drowning. He didn't say: “She's black, I'm white and I will not save her.”
He saved her life. What a wonderful example for nation building?


Blaine Vlantis
I recently discovered this young lady on Twitter. After reading her blog post, I knew that she deserves to be on this list. And hopefully one day soon an Empathy Angels Award will mean something, hopefully one day soon, the recipient will have something that they could hang on their wall.
How often do we fail to empathise with those who do not belong to our racial group, our cultural group, our religion? How often do we justify unkind treatment of those who represent the group or institution of that one individual who caused us pain? How often?

Blaine's blog post starts with: “How weird is it that they’ve put all the black girls in rooms on the bottom floor together?”

Read her complete blog post by clicking this link:
http://vryestudent.com/profiles/blogs/yeah-but-you-said-it-hetero-racialism-in-stellenbosch1


My dearest mother: Maria Williams
I do not recall that she has ever worn shoes that didn't belong to someone else first. In spite of extreme poverty, she was a woman of strength, a woman of great wisdom. “Never do unto others what you do not want done to you.” These words she spoke on a regular basis. By the time she passed on, these words were engraved in my mind and her valuable teachings guided me through many challenges in the past.

She struggled with raising seven children by herself after my father left. More often than not, the cupboards were bare, but she raised her children, always emphasising respect and good manners, treating other people well, “because you want them to treat you well”. In spite of all the hardships, she was our rock. She always told us that if we wanted to see our father, that she would not stand in our way. How noble? So often we hear those sad stories about parents splitting up, where one parent keeps the children from having a relationship with the other parent, often simply because they blame the other for the break-up.


It was heart-warming to hear the words of Dr. Frank Chikane on television news the other day. He said: “We should get to that place where we are able to get into the boots of others.” This tells me that our politicians are realising the importance of nation building. They too need the support from citizens. I pledge mine.





I believe in nation building and I am willing to contribute towards it, for the greater good of all. I will never think of myself as so powerful that I could manage and grow The Empathy Campaign by myself. No, I can't and do not want to. This campaign needs all the support that it can get.

If you have any enquiries, do contact me.

Thank you, South Africa.

Andeline Williams-Pretorius
CEO, Andeline's Motivational Traininig
Creator Of The Empathy Campaign
Speaker / Trainer / Author / Counsellor
Http://www.andeline.co.za
http://andelinewilliamspretorius.blogspot.com/2012/05/help-spread-important-message-of.html


Listen to my regular Empathy contributions on Afrikaans radio station RSG, Tuesday's between 09h00 & 10h00.


Andeline is one of thrirty women recognised by African Innovations as one of South Africa's Most Inspirational Women. Their glossy-page coffee table book will be available in August 2012. Contact Lonwabo Jabavu with your enquiries about this fabulous and very inspirational book.  Lonwabo@africaninnovations.co.za

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