Empatie teenoor vriende op sosiale netwerke

Soos wat ek in die hoofstuk oor Die Vriendskapsverhouding in my boek oor EMPATIE: In Mekaar Se Skoene uitstippel, is empatie teenoor vriende ook baie belangrik.

Vandag het ons vriende op sosiale netwerke.  Baie van hierdie “vriende” is mense wat ons nog nooit ontmoet het nie. In die ou dae het die grootmense altyd gesê dat jy aan jou vriende geken word. Is dit steeds vandag so en dink jy dit is regverdig wanneer mense jou facebook blad beloer om te sien wie jou vriende is en jou dan daarvolgens beoordeel?

Wat kan vriende op sosiale netwerke op jou blad laai en wat nie? Dink jy Empatie is ook belangrik wanneer dit by sosiale netwerke kom?

Die laaste paar weke sien ek gereeld versoeke van facebook vriende aan sy / haar vriende om nie sommer enigiets op hul blad te laai nie.

Is vriende wat so 'n versoek rig onnodig sensitief of is dit hul goeie reg om so 'n versoek te rig? Dink jy sosiale netwerke het mense van goeie maniere beroof?

Wat is van die goed wat vriende op jou blad laai wat jou irriteer?

Is dit:

Die gereelde “join my cause” versoeke.

Wanneer mense iets op jou blad laai wat niks met jou te make het nie.

Wanneer mense hul besigheid op jou blad adverteer, sonder jou toestemming?

Wanneer vriende jou “tag” in 'n foto wat niks met jou te make het nie?

Wanneer vriende hul profielfoto met 'n geslagsorgaan vervang, wat dan ook op jou blad wys waar hulle kommentaar gelewer het?

Is jy een van daardie Facebook vriende wat al jou vriende se mure as jou'e beskou?

Laai jy enigiets op jou vriende se muur, sonder om hul toestemming te vra? Indien ja, hoekom doen jy dit? Is dit omdat jy self nie omgee wat jou vriende op jou blad laai nie?

Baie vriende voer aan dat sommige “skuldiges” wat hul muur op die manier misbruik, se blad so ingestel is dat ander nie sommer enigiets op hul blad kan laai nie. Is jy een van daardie wat enigiets op ander se muur laai, maar voorsorg tref om te verseker dat hulle nie iets op jou blad kan laai nie, tensy hulle kommentaar lewer op iets wat jy gesê het?

Wat dink jy hiervan? Is dit nodig om empatie teenoor vriende op soiale netwerke te betoon?

Luister môre (Dinsdag) saam wanneer ek, Martelize & Johan hierdie kwessie bespreek, gedurende my gereelde Empatie bydrae op RSG. Bly ingeskakel tussen 09h00 & 10h00.

Gesels gerus saam

Jy is ook welkom om jou sms na die ateljee te stuur by 33343 indien jy kommentaar wil lewer.

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Wat is jou Empatie kwessie?

Jy is verder welkom om 'n empatie kwessie waarmee jy worstel, onder ons aandag te bring. Ons bespreek dit graag en gee praktiese advies waarop jy dit beter kan hanteer. Stuur jou sms na die ateljee by 33343, Maandag tot Vrydag tussen 09h00 en 12h00. R1,50 per sms.

“RSG, Dis die een.”

Indien jy my boek: In Mekaar Se Skoene wil bestel, gaan na jou naaste Exclusive Books tak of na Bargain Books. As hulle dit nie in voorrad het nie, vra hulle om vir jou te bestel by On The Dot.

Jy is ook welkom om by my te bestel.

Spesiale aanbod – geen posgeld tot einde Julie (wanneer jy by my bestel)

Hierdie aanbod is geldig vir bestellings geplaas tot Dinsdag, 31Julie 2012. Kontak my vir meer besonderhede.

Vriendelike Empatie Groete,

Andeline

Http://www.andeline.co.za

info@andeline.co.za

Andeline Williams-Pretorius is Inspirerende Spreker en passievol oor Empatie en hoe hierdie wonderlike gawe verskillende verhoudings kan verbeter, versterk asook gebroke verhoudings kan herstel.

Dit sluit in die gesin, skoonfamilie, die werksplek, vriendskap, rasseverhoudinge.  Sien my webblad vir meer onderwerpe.

My nuutste onderwerp, 

spesiaal vir vroue of geleenthede vir paartjies.

Emosionele Intelligensie - Die wolf by die agterdeur

Emotional Intelligence - The Wolf at The Back Door

In hierdie onderwerp, kyk ek na die verskynsel waar al meer vroue (getroud of in 'n langtermyn verhouding) voor die versoeking swig om 'n buite-egtelike verhouding aan te knoop.  Ek kyk ook na oorsake, sowel as na maniere om hierdie verskynsel te oorleef en jou goeie reputasie te behou.

Gesprekke oor 'n tydperk van sowat 'n jaar met vroue van verskillende rasse en kulture, beklemtoon die belangriheid van meer gesprekvoering in die verband.

  

Al my onderwerpe is in Afrikaans sowel as in Engels.

Kontak my vir meer besonderhjede om as gasspreker by jou volgende funksie of konferensie op te tree. 

Verwysings beskikbaar. 

EMPATHY ANGELS

The Empathy Campaign is about MORE than the translation of my book on Empathy. Yes, I am a dreamer and a visionary.  But with that, comes responsibility and the commitment to work at achieving these dreams.  Indeed, I am committed.  It takes a lot from an ordinary South African citizen with only a dream, to decide to follow that dream, in spite of a lack of support.  I completed my book on empathy had it published (see image below), secured a regular empathy slot on radio.  Here I am, still committed to continue with this great cause, a cause that South Africa needs; a cause that needs South Africa's commitment.  

I dream about the wonderful and positive contribution that I and every other South African who believes in nation building could contribute to South Africa. Apart from the other voluntary work that I am involved with, the foundation for my passion to contribute to nation building, is based on The Empathy Campaign http://www.facebook.com/empathycampaignsa

This passion came from understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of unkind and inconsiderate behaviour, of severe discrimination that were justified because of who I am, where I come from, what I look like. My powerful journey of personal growth made it possible to forgive.

The pain from my past, brought a wealth of good. It made me say: “Because I know what that feels like, I can never do it to another human being.” Let's re-consider our unkind actions.

Let's Ask: “How would I feel if I was on the receiving end?

Let's Act: And perhaps we'll be inspired to decide against such actions.

I was further inspired by ordinary South Africans and some, not so ordinary South Africans. I call them my EMPATHY ANGELS.

My dream with EMPATHY ANGELS, is to inspire South Africans to identify people in their communities, people who are making an empathic difference in the lives of others. With the necessary support from Government and Corporate South Africa, we'll be able to pay tribute to such individuals with what I call, an Empathy Angels Awards. Until it happens, I'll continue doing what I am absolutely passionate about, sharing the empathy message with South Africa on various platforms.

I am always looking around and getting inspired by the work that other people do. Stories about their kind and empathic gestures that they display, gestures that deserve to have that snowball effect. Today, I would like to identify some of these individuals who, with their actions, inspired me to choose between getting revenge and doing what is good for South Africa. Yes there are many individuals out there, making an empathic difference in their communities and South Africa. Today I'll focus on a few who stand out for me. These individuals include:

Mr. Nelson Mandela

His wonderful example set for people of all races in South Africa and around the world. An example that was instrumental in my journey towards healing and letting go of emotional pain and bitterness. I was able to forgive, because I had a great example to look at.

Angelique Fuhr

She is the 83 year old widow who discovered James Bhemgee, winner of "South Africa's got talent", season 2. He worked as a street sweeper and was always singing while doing his job. She realised his talent and sponsored singing lesson, among other things. As they say, the rest is history. Her investment has paid off.

She deserves all the praise for doing this, as a white South African nurturing the wonderful talent of a coloured man, a street sweeper at that, living on the Cape flats. May her soul rest in peace.

Apparently she still has a daughter, living in Cape Town. I'll be in touch with her as soon as the Empathy Angels Awards become a reality.

Prof. Jonathan Jansen, Rector at Free State University

Well, it takes courage to do the thing that eventually will contribute to the greater good of humanity- especially when there is so much criticism. It could not have been easy to be in that position. One thing I believe that we cannot deny, is that his decisions around the painful incident that took place at Reitz, was done with good intention, to eventually contribute to the greater good of South Africa. Love him or hate him; how would you have handled the situation?

Prof. Jansen also wrote the Foreword of my book on EMPATHY: In Mekaar Se Skoene.

Mr. Willem Maree

A homeless and jobless white South African saving a little black girl from drowning. He didn't say: “She's black, I'm white and I will not save her.”

He saved her life. What a wonderful example for nation building?

http://www.rapport.co.za/Suid-Afrika/Nuus/Meisie-9-van-waterdood-gered-deur-werklose-20111105

Blaine Vlantis

I recently discovered this young lady on Twitter. After reading her blog post, I knew that she deserves to be on this list. And hopefully one day soon an Empathy Angels Award will mean something, hopefully one day soon, the recipient will have something that they could hang on their wall.

How often do we fail to empathise with those who do not belong to our racial group, our cultural group, our religion? How often do we justify unkind treatment of those who represent the group or institution of that one individual who caused us pain? How often?

Blaine's blog post starts with: “How weird is it that they’ve put all the black girls in rooms on the bottom floor together?”

Read her complete blog post by clicking this link:

http://vryestudent.com/profiles/blogs/yeah-but-you-said-it-hetero-racialism-in-stellenbosch1

My dearest mother: Maria Williams

I do not recall that she has ever worn shoes that didn't belong to someone else first. In spite of extreme poverty, she was a woman of strength, a woman of great wisdom. “Never do unto others what you do not want done to you.” These words she spoke on a regular basis. By the time she passed on, these words were engraved in my mind and her valuable teachings guided me through many challenges in the past.

She struggled with raising seven children by herself after my father left. More often than not, the cupboards were bare, but she raised her children, always emphasising respect and good manners, treating other people well, “because you want them to treat you well”. In spite of all the hardships, she was our rock. She always told us that if we wanted to see our father, that she would not stand in our way. How noble? So often we hear those sad stories about parents splitting up, where one parent keeps the children from having a relationship with the other parent, often simply because they blame the other for the break-up.

It was heart-warming to hear the words of Dr. Frank Chikane on television news the other day. He said: “We should get to that place where we are able to get into the boots of others.” This tells me that our politicians are realising the importance of nation building. They too need the support from citizens. I pledge mine.

I believe in nation building and I am willing to contribute towards it, for the greater good of all. I will never think of myself as so powerful that I could manage and grow The Empathy Campaign by myself. No, I can't and do not want to. This campaign needs all the support that it can get.

If you have any enquiries, do contact me.

Thank you, South Africa.

Andeline Williams-Pretorius

CEO, Andeline's Motivational Traininig

Creator Of The Empathy Campaign

Speaker / Trainer / Author / Counsellor

Http://www.andeline.co.za

Http://www.facebook.com/empathycampaignsa

http://andelinewilliamspretorius.blogspot.com/2012/05/help-spread-important-message-of.html

Listen to my regular Empathy contributions on Afrikaans radio station RSG, Tuesday's between 09h00 & 10h00.

Andeline is one of thrirty women recognised by African Innovations as one of South Africa's Most Inspirational Women. Their glossy-page coffee table book will be available in August 2012. Contact Lonwabo Jabavu with your enquiries about this fabulous and very inspirational book.  Lonwabo@africaninnovations.co.za

Unleash the blockage of an unforgiving heart

Life. There are not many certainties. One of the few things that we can be certain of, is that we will get hurt, experience emotional pain and / or become angry. When this happens, it is important to have a plan that will guide you on your journey to release such pain or anger.

Unfortunately, we are a society that mostly focuses on damage control, instead of prevention. This is the reason why many people do not know how to heal after experiencing emotional pain or prolonged anger.

In every painful encounter, is a lesson. A lesson that is meant to teach you something. This can only happen when you look a little deeper, beyond the surface; when you are able to change the meaning that you attach to your pain and find this lesson.

Sometimes, the lesson is that you need to look at yourself in the mirror, ask difficult questions and / or acknowledge your errors or weaknesses, those things that you neglect. This can be very challenging, especially when you are not used to look inward.

How do you change the meaning?

You do this by asking the right questions. Look at what happened. Look a little further, beyond the surface and ask yourself the following questions.

1. What else, other than the obvious could this mean?

2. What am I supposed to learn as a result of what happened?

3. How can I grow as a result of what happened?

4. What can I teach others, once I work through the pain?

To be able to forgive, will obviously requires more of you than simply answering the above questions, as I demonstrate in my complete programme on EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, titled: The Art Of Letting Go. However, by answering these questions, you are able to look at your current challenge of emotional pain or prolonged anger, in a different way.

Sometimes when the hurt is too much and you are struggling to forgive, it is important to know that everybody has their own time, and that it can never be a one-size-fits-all. The most important thing to start with when you need to let go of those emotions that do not serve you, is that you have to be willing to give forgiveness a try.

Forgiveness without empathy to those who caused you pain, is impossible. When showing empathy, it doesn't mean that you approve of the hurtful thing that was done to you and it certainly doesn't mean that you are weak. The top two scenarios that require empathy are:

1. When you need to let go and forgive.

2. When you need to practice consideration to your fellow human being. “I cannot do or say this   hurtful thing to someone else, because I would not like to be on the receiving end.”

When you get into the habit of the second scenario, above, it becomes easier to grow into this mindset.

Forgiveness is one of the most difficult things to master.  At the same time it is one of the things that are the most beneficial to your journey of personal growth. Forgiveness brings freedom, freedom that you deserve.  In order to get it, you have to claim it for yourself.

Listen to RSG on Tuesday, between 09h00 & 10h00 for my regular contribution on Empathy. If you are struggling with an empathy challenge that you would like me to focus on, you can send a text message to the studio, on week days between 09h00 & 12h00. Send your text message to 33343, and I may be focusing on your challenge next time. Text messages charged at R1, 50.

Andeline is an Inspirational Speaker, Trainer, Author, Creator of The Empathy Campaign.  She was recognised by African Innovations as one of South Africa's Most Inspirational Women. Their glossy-page coffee table book will be available in August 2012.

PR Consultant - My new Hat

When you are committed to learn and grow,  wonderful things are possible.

Grow your business by getting great publicity has led me to now also wear the PR hat. Getting all the wonderful publicity that I enjoy, didn't happen overnight. It took me years to get to the stage where I am. I learned the hard way; no celebrity status, no mentor, but hard work, trial and error and finally getting it right. Today my services include teaching you the ropes so you'll avoid those trials and errors.

Getting great publicity can do more for you with building your personal brand or business, than a paid advertisement could. If you do it right, you can claim your space as an expert in your field and enjoy fantastic publicity on an ongoing basis.

Never underestimate the power of your “small” community newspaper.

I deal with many people who underestimate their community newspaper and what it could actually do for them. This was where it started for me. I began with regular news features in the community newspaper in my home town, George: The George Herald. Then, here in Johannesburg, the Roodepoort Northsider has played a major role in building my career over a period of four years. I am extremely grateful to both these publications.

How did I do it?

This is the question that I had to answer many times over the last two years, especially since not being a celebrity.

“Andeline, how did you managed to be able to write a regular column for Kuier magazine?”

Today I am known to Kuier readership as Kuier Coach. I absolutely love this title.

“Andeline, how did you managed to get all the wonderful publicity in reputable publications?”

These include: Destiny magazine, Vrouekeur, Rooi Rose, The George Herald, Roodepoort Northsider, Get It Magazine, Rapport and others?” And on radio: RSG, SAFM, talk radio 702.

“Andeline, how do you manage to contribute your expert opinion to Lig and Vrouekeur on a regular basis?”

This is wonderful, because I worked with one journalist and they would tell another, even at a different publication.

“Andeline, how did you managed to get your regular expert slot on Afrikaans radio station, RSG?”

I absolutely respect the people whom I deal with. My relationship with my favourite presenter started about four years ago. I send an email. I wasn't sure that my proposal was acceptable and simply wrote from the heart. Well, I was contacted and had the wonderful opportunity to share something with their listeners. I then choose to send regular updates on my progress over the years. And “the rest is history.”

Relationships

Relationships and how I treat my fellow human being, are extremely important to me. I managed to build wonderful relationships with journalists, editors and producers. These relationships resulted because of the way in which I have conducted myself and how I have dealt with them. Trust was built. Things positively escalated from there. You have to value people. Well, this value has certainly worked in my favour.

You have to treat journalists, producers and editors with respect and empathy. There are many people out there, with a story that perhaps are even more newsworthy than yours. You have to make sure that you are the person who gets selected to have their story published.

I am constantly learning, because I want to grow and be recognised by mainstream South Africa as a PR expert, as someone who could get great publicity for my clients as well. This I have proven over the last few months.

Attend my next public seminar on Expert positioning, titled: Grow Your Business By Getting Great Publicity. Here you gain all the necessary tools to start your journey. I believe in giving you real information, real direction. In fact, you get MORE than what you pay for, but that is my gift to you.

Since I know exactly who to contact at various media platforms, most people prefer to appoint me as their PR agent. You can do too. Terms and conditions apply.

Since this service is about introducing you to my contacts in the media and about managing my reputation, there are a number of things that I look at BEFORE taking you on as my client.

Example:

• If you are hosting a function and would like me to invite a journalist to do a news story, please make sure that you have a beautiful venue.
• Please make sure that you appoint someone to attend to this journalist on the day of your function.
• Please make sure that you deliver on the expectations that you created about your function. You do not want the journalist to arrive to do your story, but then change their mind, because you didn't deliver. Believe me – this CAN happen!!! However, with my checklist of what I look for, you'll be able to be a winner on your special day.

In short: Make sure that you treat this journalist like royalty. 

I will share more about the how-to on proper conduct soon.

You too can position yourself as an expert, get great publicity and share your expert opinion on your platform of choice. And the good news is that you do not have to start out by being a celebrity.

Yours in PR,

Andeline Williams-Pretorius.

Speaker, Trainer, Author, Life Coach for Kuier magazine, regular expert on EMPATHY on Afrikaans Radio Station: RSG, regular contributes expertise to various magazine articles.

Please visit my website Http://www.andeline.co.za

Follow me on Twitter, connect with me on LinkedIn and / or Facebook.

Thank you.

Empathy Basics

EMPATHY – the ability to step into the shoes of others, to see from their perspective and to re-consider the unkind or hurtful thing that we were about to say or do.

To show empathy toward others doesn't mean that we have to feel responsible for the hardships that they encounter.

Showing empathy is rather a matter of ensuring that we are not responsible for that hardship. Wishing for others what we want for ourselves.

How?

ASK and ACT

ASK

The question to ask is: "How would I feel if I was on the receiving end of the unkind or inconsiderate behaviour?"

And then hopefully....

ACT

Deciding against the unkind or inconsiderate action.

Every time we see or experience unkind or inconsiderate behaviour, we express our disapproval.

Incidents that are still fresh in our minds are the recent rape of mentally handicapped teenagers and the racist tweets by two models.

Can we confidently say that that was where it all started for those responsible for the horrific and discriminating actions?

I doubt it. Somewhere along the line they committed unkind actions that were not appropriately punished and it simply escalated into what was responsible for the blow-up.

It is all good and well to take away titles, to expel, and to send rapists to jail. However, we should also look at inspiring these young people to become empathy-conscious.

                                                   

Consider these basic examples displaying a lack of empathy

Example 1:

Imagine yourself walking in a shopping mall. You accidentally bump into someone because you didn't look in front of you. Do you justify giving the other person an apology or not, based on their physical appearance, racial background or your impression of their social class?

Example 2:

You are a parent and you are fixing a sandwich for your toddler and their friend. You prepare a sandwich with ham, cheese and all the trimmings for your child, while you decide to give your child's friend a sandwich with only margarine.

Has this ever happened to you?

Would you like it if the friend's mom did the same when fixing a sandwich for their child and your child?

If we do not consider our actions, our children may get the impression that differentiating between people in this way, is acceptable. This however is not where it stays. Such actions by parents may result in our children not only differentiating between people in this way, but they may justify unkind and inconsiderate behaviour towards their friend. This may lead to intolerance and discrimination.

Are you teaching your children to treat others in an unkind manner or to be intolerant without being aware of it?

Yes, these are very simple examples. However, these are examples that the majority of us can relate to. The sad part is that it often starts here, BUT it never stays here.

Can you think of more examples?

Let's make a habit of getting into each others' shoes. It is possible.

Andeline Williams-Pretorius

http://www.andeline.co.za/

Speaker / Trainer / Counsellor / Author of book on empathy: In Mekaar se Skoene

Should you wish to contribute towards the translation of this book (Afrikaans to English) do contact me.  For more information, you can also read my blog post, titled: Help spread the important message of empathy.

Thank you.

GROW YOUR BUSINESS BY GETTING GREAT PUBLICITY

EXPERT POSITIONING - Grow Your Business By getting Great Publicity, now also available as one on one seminar.

Go to http://www.andeline.co.za  

See About Andeline for more information.

Thank you

 WHAT I FOCUS ON DURING THIS SEMINAR:
1. Writing your book.Self-publishing and / or getting published by a national publisher.

2. Writing a regular column for a reputable publication.
3. Writing a press release that grabs the attention of the editor.
4. Registering your passion as an NPO.
5. Have a reputable publication tell your story or feature your business.
6. Share your expertise on radio or television.
7. What you should focus on when approaching the media.
8. Words of wisdom from journalists, producers & journalists.


You also receive my comprehensive notes.

Progress & results

I managed to secure radio interviews (on SAFM) for two past delegates.  One is currently writing her book and another had an article approved for an online newsletter after I suggested some changes.

EXPERT VARIETY

From time to time, I will speak to various experts, enquiring about their journey.  I will include one or two stories in my training, to give my delegates 
more examples; examples that they'll be able to relate to.

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CONCLUSION

It doesn't matter who you are, what your story is, what line of business you are in. Expert positioning is possible.

I care about your journey. I care about inspiring you to position yourself as an expert in your respective field. For this reason, I part with valuable and implementable tips and secrets of the trade AND I include my comprehensive notes.

One of my previous delegates (Mercy Klassen) mentioned that even though she was interested in making use of my mentoring service afterwards, that she didn't have to, because my notes were comprehensive, very good and user-friendly.

Yes, I may have lost out on some money there, but her feedback is priceless.

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Feedback:Tamar Dakes from Beaming Kids

Thank you for a wonderful morning. It was a blessing sharing your space and time. Congrats on being so super good at what you do and sharing it so gracefully with the world.”

Adrienne Vickery from Milner Realty

"Dear Andeline, congrats and kudos to you - I have been to many seminars and networking events and your seminar was wonderful – so sincere and the guests were great- your talk was excellent. - thank you for a wonderful time. You inspire people to do better !!!

Help spread the important message of Empathy

You can help spread the very important and much needed message of Empathy.

http://www.facebook.com/empathycampaignsa

How?

By making a contribution of towards the translation and production of my book on empathy:

In Mekaar se Skoene; making it available to more people in South Africa and perhaps, around the world.  Your contribution also helps spread the message, through the work that we do through The Empathy Campaign. 

As an individual or organisation, your contribution of R300, 00 will assist us with achieving this goal.

What you get in return

You are not only contributing to a good cause, but you also receive an autographed copy of the English translation, with your name / company name at the back.

Here we have space for 100 - 150 names, under the heading: Sponsors.

If your organisation contributes 5 X R300, 00 or more, you get your logo printed in the book.

Approximate size of logo: 3 x3 cm.

Space limited to 15 company logo's only.   First come first serve.

More about the important message of Empathy

Over the last two weeks, South Africa and the world were shocked by the horror of rape of mentally handicapped teenagers. Sadly, these are the cases that we hear about.  There are countless more.
And then more recently, there was the racist tweets by two models: one white, one black.

I am not sure whether removing titles and dispelling are necessarily a solution.  When we look at the above issues, it is clear that we need to find better solutions, solutions that will INSPIRE perpetrators to do the right thing, to walk in the shoes of the person on the receiving end and hopefully decide against such hurtful actions.

When we look at all forms of hurt, destruction or crime, it is obvious that at the foundation of all of these acts, is a lack of empathy; a lack of empathy for our fellow human being or for animals.

We'll soon be celebrating another Madiba Day.  The SABC slogan says it best: “Make every day a Madiba Day.” Will this objective be all forgotten at the end of May 2012?

With your contribution, you and / or your organisation assist Andeline and The Empathy Campaign with ensuring that this is not merely a chiché, but that we turn it into reality.

We can all do something to create the country that we dream of.   We can do more when we work together.

Andeline now regularly contributes expert advice on Empathy strategies for various kinds of relationships, on Afrikaans Radio Station, RSG.  Stay tuned every Tuesday between 09h00 & 10h00.  The programme: "Oggend Op RSG"

About “In Mekaar Se Skoene”

Andeline wrote this book as part of her contribution to the greater good of humanity. Her passion for empathy comes from knowing what it feels like to be on the receiving end of unkind treatment. Her healing process took a few years. Her personal growth and decision to not respond with reciprocal negative action, but to show empathy and make a difference, was inspired by the wonderful example of Mr. Nelson Mandela.

Her experiences of pain taught her about getting into the shoes of others.

“For me it became a matter of truly considering my actions, especially when it comes to other people, because I know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of unkind treatment and / or rejection.”

In the book Andeline focuses on various kinds of relationships and how we can build, re-build or improve these relationships with Respect and Empathy.

The Foreword of the book was written by Prof. Jonathan Jansen, Rector at the Free State University.

The section: About The Author was written by Dr. Regina Malan.

Recommendations for In Mekaar Se Skoene

“Dear Andeline,

I finally finished reading your book. I am impressed. It is indeed a must read for everyone. I would recommend it to all South Africans, irrespective of race, gender, culture or status. It would make me very happy if people in leadership positions could get to read your book. Your book can contribute to making South Africa a better place. Well done!

(All that is needed now is for it to be translated into English, to ensure that all people are able to read it.) Congratulations with a fantastic publication!”

Magdel Pretorius.

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"Hi Andeline, Ek sit met jou boek wat ek nou net by poskantoor gaan haal het. Weereens baie dankie! Ek het vinnig deurgelees, maar dis duidelik nie 'n boek wat ooit "klaar gelees" is nie; dis 'n boek waarheen mens MOET terugkeer elke keer as jy die spoor (wil) byster raak... Mooi wense!"

Heidrich Wyngaardt

About Andeline Williams-Pretorius BA (Health Sciences and Social Services) Unisa

"Andeline Williams-Pretorius is an Inspirational Speaker, Counselor, Trainer, wife and mother.

She is CEO of Andeline's Motivational Training, and creator of The Empathy Campaign, which is affiliated to Andeline's Motivational Training.

She was recently identified by entrepreneur, Mr. Lonwabo Jabavu from African Innovations as one of South Africa's Most Inspirational Women, and is featured in their glossy-page coffee table book, titled: South Africa's Most Inspirational Women. This book will be available in book stores from the end of June 2012.

Andeline was recognised for overcoming severe low self-esteem and lack of assertiveness, in the book: Miracle Women, authored by Dave Metzler. She is the Founder of NPO In-Law Support, 070-849. http://www.inlawsupport.com

Andeline is Columnist / Life Coach for Kuier Magazine, Author of self-published: Success it's your choice and her latest book on empathy: In Mekaar Se Skoene, published by Naledi.

Andeline has a passion for contributing to the greater good of humanity. Her voluntary work can be traced back over the last thirteen years. It includes working with teenagers, speaking at schools about Self-esteem & Assertiveness.  She also did voluntary work with in-mates at George and Johannesburg Correctional Services.

She is regular expert (Tuesdays between 09h00 and 10h00) on empathy and relationship challenges (from family to society and the work place) on Afrikaans radio station: RSG."

I thank you in advance for your contribution. We will confirm your contribution, as well as details to be included at the back of the book.  I will also post regular updates via Twitter.

We will appreciate it if you would be so kind to share this information with your friends or connections.  In order to start this process, we need at least 100 people.  With enough help, we can get there in no time.

Banking details: Andeline's Motivational Training, ABSA Bank, Menlyn, Account Number: 4061007354, Branch Code: 632005.

Please fax or email proof of payment, together with the name or company name that you would like us to add in the book. Please include contact details and your postal address.

If your organisation would like to make use of the logo option, by sponsoring 5 X R300, 00 or more, remember to email us your logo for inclusion.

Should you have any enquiries, please contact Andeline.

Mobile: 072 856 0218

Fax: 086 546 9069

Email: info@andeline.co.za

empathy@mweb.co.za

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